Maxine On Relationships - An Ongoing Journey
For many years I have been giving relationship advice to those in love, out of love, fearing love, and wanting love. I think it is my good fortune that I have discovered much about human nature and the foibles of relationships that have sprung up from my giving guidance to the lovers on the psychic line.
Today I want to talk about a topic that comes up quite often in my work: How to initiate a relationship. Many people call me and tell me that the relationship is over but they still love the person they broke up with and want to know when the relationship will commence. Most of the time relationships do not commence after a break up yet there are those that do and when done stay on their path forever, while many make-up and break up over and over again.
Who is the one to kick the relationship in gear? The women feel they should wait for the man; the men are scared of rejection, leaving the broken up broken. If either one will not make an attempt to heal the relationship, no matter what side the biggest injury came from, the relationship will fall away in time leading me to believe that the length of a relationship is indeed karmic.
Well, every once in a while I open some of my books randomly to get a taste of wisdom and today the following is where I landed.
From the book Zen Sex – The Way of Making Love by Phillip Toshio Sudo:
The way of initiation.
Whenever we come to a crossroads, not knowing the next step to take; when we don't have a lover or our sex life is stuck in a rut-those are the moments we need to reach inside and initiate positive action towards others. When in doubt, initiate. Say yes - to love, to life, to joining in with others. That is how we stay on the right path and, at the same time, elevate humanity.
If you are the one who always initiates and are tired of having to do so, dig deeper and find new avenues of intimacy. Return to the rituals of courtship; take a more romantic approach in wooing your partner; change the way you initiate. Inspired by your own creativity, you will never tire.
When we continue to operate out of love we will achieve our desired results. What we are doing in essence is telling the universe we want love in our lives and we are proving it by initiating the energy. If you are stuck in the love rut reach out – there are those who would love to be touched by you.
We can always find a reason not to do something: we're too tired; there's not enough time; it's the other person's turn. Reject those reasons. The Way of Making Love lies in the doing. I think too many people leave “it” for the other person – do your best in cultivating your relationships. Do not fear rejection as it is only another door to another room with a better view.
Let’s talk about love… -Maxine x7791